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Over the past 35 years I have successfully worked with executives from a variety of business sectors, coaching their careers and their marriages. Based on what I’ve learned from those experiences (both good and bad), current research on relationships, and extensive reading, I developed Married Love, a proven 6 step coaching plan.

The coaching is delivered in different formats: the Internet (brief on-demand video presentations), couples teleconference (each couple gets two 45 minutes one-on-one sessions), weekly group teleconference, and in-person couples coaching.

(For details click on Married Love).

THE PROBLEM: “Something’s Not Right”

If you candidly expressed the way you feel
about your marriage, how would you describe it?

Blah?
No romance?
No intimacy?
Mechanical/boring sex?
Isolated roommates?
Headed toward divorce and financial ruin?
Dealing with the emotional trauma of an affair?

EXECUTIVES ARE BUSY

As an executive you have a full schedule and long hours (I just got off a teleconference at 8:45 p.m. with an Executive VP of a large pharmacy firm …and he’s been in his office since 7:00 a.m.). There are crises, stress triggers, and long business trips. At the end of the day, it is difficult to find little if any energy to give to your your spouse and family.

Your marriage begins to drift and, in time, maybe a couple of years, you become emotionally disconnected from your spouse and kids. While you’ve been in this constant business whirlwind, they have come to see you as nothing more than a bank that provides for their needs and wants.

The MYTH of “Quality Time”

The expression “quality time” is used by misguided executives to justify and excuse the fact that they don’t spend very much time with their spouse and or children.

The fact is that quality of time is a function of quantity. You can’t dictate those moments in advance. You can’t decide to have quality time. Quality time is a spontaneous experience that is a result of spending quantity time together.

Quality moments—those little moments that are precious and important—come unbidden and, usually, unexpectedly. They arise during the process of spending a large quantity of uninterrupted time with your spouse and or children.

When you sign up for Married Love Coaching you get a presentation on MONOMANIA: KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL CAREER and GREAT FAMILY LIFE. I’ll coach you through the process of carving out quantity time with your spouse and family.

“Mike, when my accountability partner at work told me how following the steps of Married Love turned his marriage around, I thought, it won’t work in my situation. I’d been thinking about divorce for months. I had gone as far as to contact an attorney. After taking the first lesson Change Yourself, Change Your Marriage, I had a flicker of hope in my heart. My wife and now have the tools, to use a Married Love term, to keep our ‘marital roots healthy’. Mike, we still have our struggles, but we use “the question” and other tools you coached us on to keep our relationship on target.”

Thanks sounds so empty, but THANK YOU!

B.K. California

(Click on Testimonials for other responses)

COACHING MARRIED LOVE

Tom Landry, legendary coach of the Dallas Cowboys said, “The coach's job is getting players to do what they don't want to do so they can be the kind of players they always wanted to be."

Married Love is a step-by-step plan (based on proven psychological principles) that gives you a relational tool box so you can take your marriage from where it is, to where you want it to be.

From that relational tool box, you and your spouse can choose specific ones to help you through a rough patch in your marriage. Married Love will give you the skill set to continue to build a happy, intimate, and lasting marriage.

WHAT ABOUT MARRIAGE COUNSELORS?

I had a business meeting with an entrepreneur in a local Starbucks. While waiting for his arrival, I overheard two men talking about the sad state of their marriages. One asked, “Have you been to counseling?” His friend responded, “Yes, but it hasn’t done any good. In fact it seems our relationship has worsened. All the counselor did was stir up hurts from the past and listened for an hour while my wife and I bantered back and forth. We left with nothing to help us change what we were doing.” (Studies reveal that 75% of the couples who seek traditional marriage counseling are either worse off or divorced a year later.)